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LINDSAY MITCHELL: Celebrating single parents

Earlier this week Ngāti Kahungunu and Project Gender released the Mako Mama Mangopare Single Parents Project. The research is based on seven focus groups and an on-line survey of 3,545 single parents which asks about their circumstances regarding income, work, health, experience of discrimination and domestic violence. Not unexpectedly the responses paint a picture of struggle and perceived discrimination.


The MMM Project’s subsequent reaction to the research is twofold:


1/ To embark on a nationwide campaign to “celebrate” single parents.


2/ Create an “on-line Navigators portal” for single parents.


The authors appear to be lining up future employment for themselves, anticipating further funding from the Peter McKenzie Project (commissioners of the report) and the government.


They have also noticed another gap in the market and propose, “Creating single parents’ networks that operate similar to LGBTQI+ networks, within business.” Perhaps the creation of a ‘Single Parent Tick’ akin to the pervasive Rainbow Tick?


Of course, there is no guarantee such a ‘tick’ would attract single parents off benefits. As one survey respondent remarked: “I can’t afford to work – If I work 40 hrs a week, after paying childcare I only earn $100 more than on a benefit, that’s $2.50 per hour.”


It’s worth exploring that comment. If their household budget required $100 more, surely the beneficiary couldn’t afford not to work? What the respondent seems to be saying is the marginal difference is so small they can’t afford to put in 40 hours effort at just $2.50 per hour. Someone else can put in the effort and pay the tax required to furnish their income.


Another respondent says, “We don’t just want a job, we want a career and opportunities to study/work that fit our lives as sole carers for our tamariki."


So, people doing the ‘jobs’ should provide you with ‘careers and study opportunities’? You do know where the money for your benefit comes from, right?


Maybe not. Another said, “MSD treat me like I’m a desperate Māori trying to milk them – You would think you were asking for money from their personal bank account.”


Well, hello. Your case manager toils to pay taxes. It feels exactly like their personal bank account.


There’s a lot of people out there kidding themselves, and it’s not just beneficiaries.


Despite the continuing elevated poverty and poorer health experienced by lone parents and their children, we are exhorted to “celebrate” this family form by embarking on a “nationwide media, marketing and communications campaign … to change behaviours; mobilise communities; and address social attitudes that stigmatise single parents.”


Single parenthood is stigmatised by society because of the hardship, loneliness and vulnerability it entails for mother and child. The moral disapproval exists because many (though certainly not all) single parents expect to live at the expense of others. This societal displeasure is only exacerbated by the increasing ease with which to avoid pregnancy or find work to support a family.


Here’s the reality. This latest advocacy project is yet another bad idea from the poverty activism industry which creates lucrative employment/funding opportunities for those with an eye for riding the gravy train. It’s cynical and relies on perpetuating victimhood. We are trapped in a culture of faux kindness and silly celebration. It is sacrilege to suggest to anyone they made a mistake, or a poor choice. They don’t have to own it because we all ‘own it’ – we are all made responsible for the consequences of decisions of others we have no control over. This is the inevitable upshot of compulsory collectivism.


There is another option, but I'd be laughed out of the room for suggesting it. Avoidance and prevention just might be a better approach.


Which makes more sense?



Numbers (not provided in the report)

Census 2018: 131,787 sole parent families with dependent children

MSD 2021: 99,000 sole parent families on a main benefit



Lindsay Mitchell blogs here

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Where are the men? I can recall, not all that long ago, when men accepepted the responsibility to provide for and protect their families, friends, communities and nations. Those who did not were shamed by their peers. If their girlfirends became pregnant men had to marry them, get a job and provide for their wives and children and protect them. If they would not, the shotguns might come out. Oh yes, the socialist Omnipotent Moral Busybodies in political parties, that seek authority and power over the rest of us, decided to pretend that "THE STATE" could provide for and protect us in return for our incomes and obedience to them. Boys do not have to grow into men in the welfare state so many do not. Our…

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The socialists who call themselves the state want us to think they can provide for and protect us so that we will become dependent upon and obedient to them. Unfortunately, the always RUN OUT OF OTHER PEOPLE'S MONEY trying to maintain this delusion. The result is social dysfunction and economioc poverty.

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Frank Bennett
Frank Bennett
06 mai 2023

I thought it was April 1st, all fools day. Because that is what these people are making the taxpayers of this country to to be. Next they will be asking all to celebrate the brazen males who simply walk away and refuse to accept any responsibility. The people that produce reports like this are devoid of common sense and practicality.

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Wer are the problem because we keep being seduced by false promises and bribes we have to pay for and hiring the wrong people to represent us in our government. Red, Green and Blue You don't know what to do

We have had enough of you

we will hire someone new.

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When does having children become a business - when the more children you have increases the household income by such that you no longer have to leave your home to go to work as you will then be living off taxpayers money. The great socialist objective, to rely on the state for their income. There are single mothers out there who don't need a husband, they have the state!

Pay attention to films taken in areas of poverty and note how many children the parents have - probably the reason why they all live in poverty.

The taxpayers shouldn't have to pay for more than, for example, three children. Any more than that is on the parents.

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26azula
26azula
06 mai 2023
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Excellent rex.ilex You hear a lot of single mothers say they don't want anything to do with the father of the baby how rich is that. Its a pity they didn't think of that in the first place.

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More teeth in that than our current crop of Uniparty politicians will ever know.


Single mothers are crime factories. The feminist freedom rhetoric is powerful propaganda. Celebrating single mothers is crazy. Feminism was created by a bunch of men whom wanted to fornicate without kickback. And here we are.

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lynnsam112
lynnsam112
05 mai 2023

a growth industry, funded by the hard working tax payers that are prepared to get off their backsides.......New Zealand is on a slippery slope and the WEF/UN are very pleased with our performance so far....

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